This morning my friend and a financial counselor Jim Tewalt and I were talking about our mutual careers. Jim was explaining how many people who felt their problems and challenges are insurmountable were really just a step away from a breakthrough. I have the same type of challenges in what I do. So many times pastors and cities are just a step or two away from getting where they always have wanted to be. But taking that next step can be a challenge. Jim said it this way. “The next step is to get people to take the next step.” I thought to myself, “Wow! This is an article.”
Taking the next step may not always relate to problems. It could be moving from good to great. Many companies face this issue. It could be about moving from a ‘wanna-be’, to a ‘gonna-be’, to an ‘is-a-bee.’ Or it could be a transition or change in some way. Most people know there is something better, higher up but hesitate to take that next step that might get them there.
If you haven’t seen it already, watch the video “It’s not about the Nail.” Google it on UTube. Author Jason Headley offers sage advice to men currently in a relationship with a woman who may be going through some hardships. It’s about taking that next step.
The scene is a lady and man sitting on a couch. They are talking to one another. The lady has a real nail in her head. She starts the dialogue. “It’s just, there’s all this pressure, you know. And sometimes it feels like it’s right up on me and I can just feel it, like literally feel it in my head and it’s relentless and I don’t know if it’s gonna stop, I mean, that’s the thing that scares me the most, it’s that I don’t know if it’s ever gonna stop.”
The man says, “Ya. Well you do a have a nail in your head.” The woman says defensively, “It’s not about the nail!” The man says, “Are you sure, because, I mean, I bet if we got that out of there…” She retorts, “Stop trying to fix it.” He says, “No, I’m not trying to fix it, I’m just pointing out that maybe the nail is causing…” She interrupts, “You always do this – you always try to fix things when all I really need is for you to just listen.” He says, “No, see, I don’t that is what you need, I think what you need is to get the nail out…” She responds angrily with, “SEE YOU’RE NOT EVEN LISTENING NOW!
The man rather hesitantly says, “Ok, fine. I will listen, fine.” She is intense and says, “It’s just – sometimes it’s like – there’s this achy. I don’t know what it is. And I’m not really sleeping very well at all. And all my sweaters are snagged. I mean – all of them.” He tries to be understanding and sensitive, “That sounds really hard.” She smiles and says “It is. Thank you.”
Then the two of them try to embrace and his head collides with her head while they are trying to kiss and make up. It obviously physically hurts both of them. He says loudly, “Oh come on – If you would just…” She glares and points at him. She says loudly, “Don’t!”
What is your next step? What is that nail everyone sees except you that could take you from the outhouse to the penthouse? What are you doing great and what could you do better? Maybe it’s time to take out that nail. You’re already good. Now take the next step and be great.
Let us leave it now with this question that Jesus asks each one of us: “In some area of your life, do you want to be healed?” If you say, “Yes,” he will say, “Then stand up, take up your bed, and walk.”
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